Love & Rhetoric

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Shortest-known abstract for a serious scientific paper: only 2 words

(via: Boing Boing)


Being good to each other is so important, guys.

Reminder: motivation is a skittish animal.

Approach cautiously.

Posted 15 hours ago with 1 note and tagged as #motivation

Unlike men in the same position, women leaders have to continue to walk the fine line between appearing incompetent and nice and competent but cold. Experimental studies find that, unlike men, when they try to negotiate greater compensation they are disliked. When they try out intimidation tactics they are disliked. When they succeed in a male occupation they are disliked. When they fail to perform the altruistic acts that are optional for men, they are disliked. When they do go beyond the call of duty they are not, as men are, liked more for it. When they criticize, they are disparaged . Even when they merely offer an opinion, people look displeased. The perceptive reader will notice a certain pattern emerging. The same behavior that enhances his status simply makes her less popular. It’s not hard to see that this makes the goal of getting ahead in the workplace distinctly more challenging for a woman.

Cordelia FineDelusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference (via bbrightstar)

Posted 15 hours ago from engrprof with 84 notes




Really, watch this. It’s fantastic.


Anonymous asked: Have you talked about weaponized femininity on this blog before? I didn't find anything on your tags list; is there any particular or personal reason you feel you should hate it, or is it just its overbearing presence on tumblr?


I’ve talked a little about it before, though I tag it weaponized femininity for ts so you might not have seen it.

Mostly, I think that tumblr’s overwhelming fondness for it drowns out a lot of problems with the concept:

  • the ways that reclaiming a traditionally white femininity excludes women of color;
  • how often “you can be accomplished and pretty!” sounds like “you must be accomplished and pretty,”
  • and related to that—way that it seems to still pay a whole hell of a lot of deference to the male gaze.
  • femininity is predicated on beauty, you still have to be attractive to weaponize it—for example, in that gifset I reblogged, the woman’s gesture loses all meaning if the man doesn’t want to touch her in the first place.
  • I have no time for any strain of female empowerment that is predicated on my ability to be conventionally attractive.
  • I have no time for any strain of female empowerment that thinks the most important thing about me is how I present myself.
  • if you want to wear red lipstick or polka dot dresses or look like a terrifying empress of the cosmos—fine.
  • if you want to wear stilettos and a sheath dress to take down the patriarchy—great.
  • but too often those things are presented as an end in themselves and if we’re going patriarchy hunting I’m wearing sneakers and an oversize t-shirt and weaponized femininity doesn’t seem to have room for that in its narrative.

On a personal level, as someone who has little hope of fitting into the mold of conventional femininity and therefore could never subvert it, the label to me seems yet another gate of “womanhood” shut in my face. I don’t always appreciate it.

Anonymous asked: I have never met you but based on this blog I think you're really awesome ._.


*blushing intensifies*

Thank you! I think you’re cool too anon, your cool self with your cool sunglasses.

Posted 15 hours ago and tagged as #replies

Crying every night is not a weakness. Do you think the skies are weak when they weep and cut you skin and when they flood entire cities and swell the veins of the Earth? The power of tears is the mightiest sign of your true strength, it marks a cleansing. After every rain there is growth, no exception! Though you only cry to put out the fire that burns you, growth will come by nature. Your heart is thunder, and the pulse - a hammer of your spirit. Rejoice in its magnificence.

— Thor’s words of wisdom  (via allefory)

(Source: celestialfolk)

You know, the discourse around women and “work life balance” is great and wonderful.

But there is a huge emphasis on the “life” part of the scale being all about raising and taking care of a family.

What about us singles?

What about women who want to reconcile time spent working and time spent cultivating a hobby, like soldering or knitting?

What about women who just don’t want kids?

Posted 17 hours ago with 4 notes and tagged as #childfree #work life balance


Apparently it’s not socially acceptable for a man to invite another man out just for coffee or to go out for a meal, in case it’s perceived as a date. Like it’s fine if you wanna go to the pub and drink beer and have a chat but make it non-alcoholic and suddenly you’re not straight anymore? You can go to the cinema together but ONLY if it’s an action movie. You guys can’t even just go shopping with each other. Oh masculinity, so fragile, so strange.